Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Resist Labeling

"A while ago a woman approached me after a fireside and asked: Don't you feel guilty for choosing a career over marriage? Her words hurt. But I'm sure her comment would have been different if she had known my heart, or if she had known how much time I've spent fasting and pleading with the Lord in the temple, seeking to understand His will for me. Only He knows how painful this process has been. But He also knows how grateful I am for the process, because it has sealed my heart to Him.

How often have you and I made judgments that are equally unfair? Why can't we resist the urge to second-guess and evaluate each other? Why do we judge everything from the way we keep house to how many children we do or do not have? Sometimes I wonder if the final judgment will be a breeze compared with what we've put each other through here on earth!

Another kind of judging is more subtle but equally destructive. How often do we describe a sister with words like these: She's a convert. She's been inactive. She's a Utah Mormon. She's single. She's a stay-at-home mom.

When we label one another, we make judgments that divide us from each other and inevitably alienate us from the Lord. The Nephites learned this lesson the hard way. After the Savior appeared on this continent, those converted to the gospel lived in harmony for two hundred years. Because they loved God, they also loved each other. And though previously there had been Nephites and Lamanites and Ishmaelites, there were now no '-ites,' as the scriptures tell us (4 Nephi 1:17). They were one. The result? There was not 'a happier people among all the people who had been created by the hand of God' (4 Nephi 1:16). It wasn't until they again divided into classes that Satan began to win many hearts. The Nephites never recovered spiritually.

We gain nothing by segregating ourselves based on superficial differences. What we have in common-particularly our commitment to the same glorious cause-is so much more significant than any distinctions in our individual lives."
-Sheri Dew